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_Hurricane_
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Mobile, AL
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Does being from the south give you unrealistic expectations of kindness?
I’m a young dude (still in college). There’s a lot of northerners at my school. I hold the door open for people and everything else a “normal” person should do. I give rides and help my friends when I really shouldn’t for my own sake. (Late to class but who gives a shite when my friend has a midterm.) I see a marked difference in the friends I’ve made in college who are from the South and those who are from the North. When I REALLY need something, I call up my friends and ask for help. I’ve learned that in those situations to only call those from the South. Can any older guys confirm that people from the North are takers and not givers later in life too?

ETA: I don’t want to keep getting fooled I give a lot to friends but always expect they’d do the same. I’m getting to realize that’s not the case. Just seems Northerners will take every bit of help from you but your arse better not expect anything in return.
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p0845330
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Member since Aug 2013
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re: Does being from the south give you unrealistic expectations of kindness?
It generally depends on what part of the north. Midwesterners are typically southerners with a funny accent. Northwest and northeast, frick em.

In-laws are all in Michigan. Rednecks to the core and will do anything for you.
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_Hurricane_
Alabama Fan
Mobile, AL
Member since Feb 2016
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re: Does being from the south give you unrealistic expectations of kindness?
Nah, I’m convinced the Midwest will very quickly catch up to the North/West Coast just based on the interactions I’ve had with their offspring.
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tigerbutt
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re: Does being from the south give you unrealistic expectations of kindness?
For the most part you are correct. I worked briefly in a bad part of town in Chicago (is there a good part?) and felt like everyone there were southerners they were so polite. Just depends.


_Hurricane_
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Mobile, AL
Member since Feb 2016
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re: Does being from the south give you unrealistic expectations of kindness?
I edited my second post, but I guess I’m mostly talking about the young people. It seems like the South is the only part of the country actively instilling personal sacrifice in their children as a true virtue. Not some far-off, vague political concept.

ETA: I go to Bama and have gotten screwed over by “friends” from outside the south repeatedly. Never from a guy from around here. Considering Bama is like 70% out of state now, you can see why I’m not liking the dichotomy.
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tigerbutt
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re: Does being from the south give you unrealistic expectations of kindness?
You don’t have to go from south to north to experience unrealistic expectations. Just go to Chick-fil-A and then drive over to Popeyes.
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YNWA
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re: Does being from the south give you unrealistic expectations of kindness?
Southerners are extremely nice, to white people. You guys aren't holding a door and saying "yes ma'am" and "yes sir" to a Muslim, Latino, black etc. Let's not pretend the south is nice. Half of you want another civil war to break out. If anything I'd say your kindness is fake compared to the north.


BRgetthenet
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re: Does being from the south give you unrealistic expectations of kindness?
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Southerners are extremely nice, to white people. You guys aren't holding a door and saying "yes ma'am" and "yes sir" to a Muslim, Latino, black etc. Let's not pretend the south is nice. Half of you want another civil war to break out. If anything I'd say your kindness is fake compared to the north.




bullshite


LewDawg
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re: Does being from the south give you unrealistic expectations of kindness?
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Southerners are extremely nice, to white people. You guys aren't holding a door and saying "yes ma'am" and "yes sir" to a Muslim, Latino, black etc. Let's not pretend the south is nice. Half of you want another civil war to break out. If anything I'd say your kindness is fake compared to the north.
Laying it on thick this morning


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GreatLakesTiger24
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re: Does being from the south give you unrealistic expectations of kindness?
Midwesterners are far more kind than southerners. Not even close


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kciDAtaE
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re: Does being from the south give you unrealistic expectations of kindness?
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bullshite


The south is very racist


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Solo Cam
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re: Does being from the south give you unrealistic expectations of kindness?
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It generally depends on what part of the north. Midwesterners are typically southerners with a funny accent
This, I’ve met some good ole baws from Wisconsin. Hell I’ve met some good people from washington state too. Pretty simple to me - when people are from larger cities they see other people as objects not people. People from more rural backgrounds that came from small communities are typically much more in touch with their humanity and more kind


efrad
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re: Does being from the south give you unrealistic expectations of kindness?
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Southerners are extremely nice, to white people. You guys aren't holding a door and saying "yes ma'am" and "yes sir" to a Muslim, Latino, black etc. Let's not pretend the south is nice. Half of you want another civil war to break out. If anything I'd say your kindness is fake compared to the north.


Stereotype much? Sure, there are plenty of people like that in the South. There are also plenty of people who would welcome them with open arms.


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The Spleen
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re: Does being from the south give you unrealistic expectations of kindness?
I’m nearly 50 and I’ve experienced kindness and rudeness in every geographical area of the country. No area has monopoly on either.


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weagle99
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re: Does being from the south give you unrealistic expectations of kindness?
Maybe. Sadly, even the South is losing its politeness and manners.
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BOSCEAUX
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Member since Mar 2008
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re: Does being from the south give you unrealistic expectations of kindness?
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Southerners are extremely nice, to white people. You guys aren't holding a door and saying "yes ma'am" and "yes sir" to a Muslim, Latino, black etc. Let's not pretend the south is nice. Half of you want another civil war to break out. If anything I'd say your kindness is fake compared to the north.


You are full of shite and have no idea what you’re talking about. If it’s a woman I don’t care if they are green I’m holding the door for them.


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The Spleen
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re: Does being from the south give you unrealistic expectations of kindness?
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If anything I'd say your kindness is fake compared to the north.



There is a lot of fakeness in southern hospitality.


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BOSCEAUX
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re: Does being from the south give you unrealistic expectations of kindness?
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Pretty simple to me - when people are from larger cities they see other people as objects not people. People from more rural backgrounds that came from small communities are typically much more in touch with their humanity and more kind


I agree with this.


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Loup
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re: Does being from the south give you unrealistic expectations of kindness?
I met a few dudes from North Dakota 4 years ago at a wedding. We exchanged numbers with plans to hunt together in the future. Every one of them offered to drive down and help clean my yard up after Ida hit this year. Folks from rural areas that aren't on meth are usually good people. I guess living in a city you kind of learn to ignore other folks since you're around them so much.


Mariner
LSU Fan
Mandeville, LA
Member since Jul 2009
1098 posts

re: Does being from the south give you unrealistic expectations of kindness?
When I moved to the tri state area for grad school, my eyes opened wide. I lived with a southerner and two Northeast guys. Myself and the Southerner were team players. I would go to Sam's before the semester started and spend $500 or more on toiletries, kitchen items, and cleaning products. I considered that was a contribution to the apartment. I was nicknamed Mr. Belvedere by a classmate who frequented the apartment. My friend would have gumbo weekends and cook for the apartment. One of my Northern roomates never did an ounce of housekeeping and had the elitist (I am too busy) mindset. The other roommate mooched off of everything. If anything came about that required them to pony up, they would politic the split $ evenly bull crap. My southern roommate and I thought it was odd that we put up 5X the amount of resources to everyone's living situation, but they overlooked that.

I went on a casual date with a girl from Jersey, and she was floored at how nice and respectful I was, and guys like that still exist. In all honesty, I was just being a status quo humble and polite southern guy.

My favorite was the opening of doors for women. A few times when I approached the door with a woman, I had to speed up to get to the door before her. To us it is just a suttle sign of respect for women. Each time I was met with a surprised look, awkwardness, and a couple did not like the gesture. I kept doing it as I refused to alter my principles.

I was so glad to graduate and move back home.


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